This is not the blog I planned on tonight, but things don't always go as planned.
I received this anonymous comment on my "Drunk Blogging?" blog...
Tell me how you can continue to whine grow up get a job and take care of your responsibilities you are not the only one who is going through this maybe its you and not him!
Here is the deal. I am not sure who in the world this...be Justin, or his family, or his "friend." But next time I receive one of these...I will post...WILL POST every email from me and Justin. That way, the ENTIRE world can see what has been said, and you will know why I am upset.
That way, comments like this won't be necessary. I truly don't think it is Justin making the comments, I KNOW he wouldn't do that. He wants to keep the peace as much as I do....so whoever it is, you are about to screw him over big time if you keep this up.
Also....I will not control my friends' comments out of respect towards Justin. I was trying to help that....but when I get comments like this, I can't stop my friends from speaking their minds.
I posted a comment before I read this one. You go girl! I used the same word a you... COWARD! Some piece of work!
ReplyDeleteI agree!!! I always make sure to leave my name on people's blogs, even if I don't know them personally. Shame on them!
ReplyDeleteThanks friends. :-) Thanks for your undying support. It is truly what helps me make it through each day.
ReplyDeleteMiss Hollie, Jared and I wanted to leave a message that we only have wonderful thoughts and prayers about you. We have no ill will towards you. We love those boys and are sad to see this happen. We hope in some way to stay in contact with you. I am sorry that this is happening. No one deserves to have their heart ripped out. We send love and prayers for you. ~Heather and Jared Olesky
ReplyDeleteHeather- thank you so much. I appreciate your words. I hope that Samuel and Michael get to the boys when you are in town.
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Hollie
We love you Hollie. Miss you and see you soon. Maybe we can come over and do a game night. It would be a blast.
ReplyDeleteLove heather
Golly, I sure am glad Justin has really great friends who will jump in and defend his honor when things get tough. Unfortunately however, all I can visualize when reading this is a child throwing their self to the ground kicking and screaming “STOP PICKING ON MY FRIEND!” Not a pretty picture I’m afraid. Nevertheless, I think a few points should be made here that perhaps the author of this very poignant, insightful and eloquent comment may be unaware of.
ReplyDeleteWhile there are always two sides to any story, at least Hollie has dealt with her side honestly. She did not lie or hide in the shadows typing secret love notes to another person while claiming to be in love with the one she was married to.
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Hollie did not take her family down the road of adoption knowing all the while that at the end of it all she would break a thousand hearts by walking out. Not just the hearts of her own family, but that of a six year old boy who had already started to accept his new mom, dad and big brothers and was preparing to move in his new home in just a few short days. Had this situation been reversed, Hollie would surely have discussed her unhappiness with Justin and the need for change with him in order to try to hold onto her marriage. Cheating was never an option for her and she proved that to Justin over and over again. She once even told Justin that a friend of his was flirting with her and asked him to have a talk with him so he would stop. But rather than try to work things out for the sake of his family, Justin chose to pin a note to the wall of their bedroom, pack his stuff, and abandon his family.
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Now, the author of this comment is quick to tell Hollie to stop “whining”. I have to tellya here, “whine” is not in her vocabulary. If you look that word up in the dictionary you will, however, find a picture of Justin. There is a difference between whining and crying. I feel it is safe to say that anyone who is not completely devoid of emotion would experience a profound sense of grief and loss at having been abandoned without any warning that it was coming. Crying is part of the healing process and to be expected. But whining belongs almost exclusively to Justin. Clearly, he has convinced the author of this comment that he was just a poor, put-upon, innocent victim who had spent ten years being “used” by his family. What he doesn’t tell his “friends” is that he really just wanted to live his life free of responsibility and that when he has used them up, or when they cease to give him the attention he so desperately craves, he will likely abandon them as well.
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Which brings me to the question of motives. The “M” in Justin’s middle name stands for “Motive”. Throughout his marriage to Hollie, he was always trying to glean whatever attention he could for himself through Hollie’s cancer. He loved nothing more than to have people fawn all over him and tell him how wonderful and loving and supportive and strong and yada yada yada he was for being there for Hollie. He loves to be recognized and appreciated for being the wonderful person he is. He hated when he couldn’t attend certain events because of finances or because Hollie’s condition wouldn’t allow it and would pout and feel that he was somehow being cheated out of life. He and Hollie would sometimes get in fights because he would want to tell people about her cancer (and thereby bring attention to himself), but she wouldn’t let him because she didn’t want people to “feel sorry” for her. Justin’s motive for everything he does is to bring attention to himself because sadly, he didn’t get enough in his younger years. What baffles me is why the attention he received from his own family was never enough for him. He doesn’t seem to get that climbing the social ladder and becoming a mover and shaker in this world is an empty existence.
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There is so much more that could be said, but there is one last thing I feel cannot go unmentioned. Apparently with Justin, out of sight is indeed out of mind. When he walked out on his children, he was hoping to never look back. In talking to his kids, it became clear that it has been a daily struggle to get him to call or visit with his own children and how does Hollie explain that one to them? I was at the Relay for Life yesterday when Justin was there and noticed that when he was walking with Michael he was ignoring him while furiously texting back and forth to someone on his phone. Even when he manages to sacrifice his precious time for his kids, his mind is on taking care of his own business. It’s pretty clear where his priorities lie.
ReplyDeleteAs much as Justin was hoping that when he walked out on his family they would just go away, it’s not going to happen. Most people can’t pretend ten years of marriage never happened and when everything they knew as their reality and happiness suddenly implodes, they need to find an outlet for all of the emotions that come rushing in on them. Hollie is no exception and blogging is her outlet.
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So to the girl (or boy) who feels such love and devotion to Justin that they feel the need to attack Hollie for her openness and honesty about her pain, I hope you can get some kind of control of yourself so that you can see more clearly. Anyone who has ever been down this road knows that love is blind and Hollie can certainly attest to that. You, my friend, are blinded by your love for Justin and in need of a reality check before you fall victim to his self-centered, self-important, self-righteous ways. If you don’t open your eyes, he’ll use you up and throw you away when you least expect it. And please, check your punctuation.
ReplyDeleteWow- that was a novel. I cannot believe all of the comments on this one blog. You have all bee so kind, thank you.
ReplyDeleteI asked some friends and no one is fessing up to who made this comment...but you said you were at Relay?
Even if you don't wanna tell me who it is...thank you for your kind words. They meant a lot to me. And it has to be someone I know and talk to...cause this is stuff only close friends know.
Thank to everyone for your kind words, on here and Facebook. I really needed them. You are all amazing.
I'm pretty popular as I know no one on here 'cept skimming through peoples blogs and came across these amusing pity stories and felt the need to comment. Thank you for all the undivided attention! I'm a single father and tired of these women wanting pity upon themselves and airing your dirty laundry out so everyone can make a comment. Last time I checked it is a free country and if you choose to air your dirt laundry people will respond! Do you get paid to blog? You do it so well. Good for Justin to leave a wreck that you portray, I see why he did, if I ever meet the gent' I'll buy him a drink.
ReplyDeleteCome come now "single father". We all know you are (a)Justin's friend
ReplyDelete(b)Justin's girlfriend or
(c)Justin's boyfriend (not sure which way he swings)
It is completely understandable that you would want to defend him and we all can appreciate that. It is also a great lesson for those of us who are in college and in need of an exercise in psychology. The pair of you will be wonderful case studies in denial, victimization, narcissism and the inability to connect with reality.
Thank you for taking the time to leave your thoughts.
this comment is for the anonymous person who came to your page to view your blog and to comment on it---- WHY DO YOU TAKE TIME OUT OF YOUR DAY TO WORRY ABOUT HOLLIE? OBVIOUSLY THERE ARE SOME JEALOUSY OR YOU ARE WORRIED JUSTIN IS GOING TO DO TO YOU WHAT HE DID TO HER.. AND TRUST ME HE WILL! NOBODY EVER SAW THIS COMING, AND I ASSURE YOU THAT I WOULD NEVER EVER EVER WANT A MAN THAT WOULD ABBANDON HIS FAMILY! NEXT LETS MOVE ON TO YOU SAYING HOLLIE NEEDS TO QUIT WHINING- I SAT IN THE HOSPITAL WITH HOLLIE AS A CHILD WHEN SHE WAS FIRST DEALING WITH HER CANCER AND I CAN ASSURE YOUR ASS SHE DID NOT WHINE, COMPLAIN, OR EVEN MAKE ANYTHING ABOUT HER SO LIKE SOMEONE ELSE SAID WHINING IS NOT IN HER VOCAB!!!!! moving on- AND HOLLIE WILL NOT HAVE TO WORK A DAY IN HER LIFE AFTER SHE IS DONE DEALING WITH JUSTIN IN THE COURT SYSTEM AND YOU CAN BELIEVE THAT I AM GOING TO SEE TO THAT MY SELF.. IT WILL BE YOUR STUPID ASS SUPORTING JUSTIN IF IT IS THE LAST THING I SEE HAPPEN... JUSTIN WILL PAY FOR WHAT HE DID BECAUSE KARMA IS A MUTHATRUCKER!! MAYBE YOU ARE ONLY GETTIN ONE SIDE OF THE STORY FROM YOUR BOY JUSTIN.. AND BOY IS USED BECAUSE WHAT REAL MAN LEAVES A PUNK ASS NOTE BEHIND??? HMMM LIKE I SAID BEFORE- STOP ACTING LIKE JUSTIN IS SOME FREAKIN GOLDEN PRIZE HOLLIE THOUGHT JUSTIN WAS HER NIGHT IN SHINING ARMOUR, BUT IT JUST TURN OUT HE A PUNK ASS BOY IN SOME ALUMINUM FOIL!!! NOW NEXT TIME YOU HAVE SOME COMMENTS TO LEAVE- YOU SHOULD PROBLY THINK ABOUT THEM CUZ YOU MAKING YOUR SELF LOOK REALLY STUPID SWEETIE!!! OH AND TELL JUSTIN AMBER WOULD LOVE TO SEND A THANK YOU CARD BECAUSE I ALWAYS THOUGHT HOLLIE WAS TOO GOOD FOR HIM.. THIS ONLY PROVES IT!!! NOW JUSTIN IS NOT EVEN A FATHER AS FAR AS I AM CONCERNED SO I DO HOPE SHE AINT DO SHIT FOR HIM YESTERDAY..
ReplyDeletenow i could be completly wrong on my comment before.... yep only wrong in me calling the girl a girl... because i still got money riding on justin being with a dude!! and to the single dad that left the comment that he would buy justin a drink!!! hahahha JUSTIN MITE LIKE THAT TOO MUCH BUDDY!!! HE WOULD WANT YOU TO GET HIM DRUNK AND TAKE ADVANTAGE OF HIM BIG BOY!!! HAHAHAHAH THESE PEOPLE AMAZE ME!!
ReplyDeleteI love this. Wake up get a cup of joe and read all the love from you disgusting ignorant hags. The name is Bruce. Don't know you or anyone but I see I stir up lots of controversy. It's even more funnier you make some comment on someone's sexuality. For sure I'd buy the man a drink no man needs to be talked down on because he left his wife for a better life. But I'm guessing Amber you are perfect with your family you have or not. The perfect marriage and father to your children you may have? And you a perfect wife if i fact you are a wife? So you are one to give great advice right.
ReplyDeleteWow Bruce. You said it all when you said that Justin left his wife for a better life. This only proves my point that when whatever is going on in Justin's life gets too boring or aggravating for him, he just moves on to something that he thinks will make him happy. When he grows weary of THAT, he will leave another of his famous notes and walk out again. He is the great note writer and he will step on whomever he has to step on in order to make himself happy. Justin thinks only about Justin and sooner or later, I assure you, you will find this out the hard way. I pray your eyes will be opened and you will get out before that happens, but he is a very good actor and will make you believe he genuinely cares for you while he is using you. I promise you that right now you are just the next rung up on the ladder and when he finds what he thinks is better than you he will step on you to get to the next rung. What he hasn't figured out yet though is that his ladder has no top. People like him never reach the top because they believe there is always something better if they can go a little higher. I'm sure this is because he was so poor and ugly as a child and had no friends. No one cared about him so he grew up not understanding what it is to really love someone. There is no depth to this man and he's too much of a coward to face the person he decides to step on so he leaves one of his famous notes. Hope you pay attention here, because you're probably next.
ReplyDeleteThis is all hard to reading being in the middle of this family. I am married to Jared, Justins brother and i care deeply for my brother and Hollie my sister. I wanted to comment that we are all here for Hollie and i am sorry that people have to shares 2 cents about something they know nothing about. Sometimes things should be kept to ones self and i have stood by for too long watching this unfold with out saying anything. It comes back to basic teaching, IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY DONT SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. I am a true believer in this and follow it. Everyone you meet treat them as if their world is falling apart because 90% of the time it is. Love thy neighbor as thy friend.
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"Bruce" is just a troll trying to stir up trouble. He is getting his jollies by stirring up emotions. Just ignore him and hopefully he will find another playground to play on.
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ReplyDeleteWell i dont care what anybody thinks of my comments... i have known Hollie for over 20 years... I DONT BITE MY TONGUE FOR ANYONE!!!!
Wow! I haven't been able to read your blog lately Hollie and boy have I missed alot! =) Ditto all of Amber's comments. LOL
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