Good advice for everyone...

I went to yahoo and this was on the front page. I just think it is good advice for everyone- whether you are married, or dating, or looking for love...this is advice to live by....

1. Keep the lines of communication open. If you don't know how to express your feelings and/or have poor listening skills, learn to get better at both. You can read a book, take a class, or get into counseling. Good communication requires both the ability to express and listen.

2. Don't sweep your fights under the rug and think they'll magically resolve themselves. Do your best to resolve your first argument as soon as it arises so you won't have the same argument for the next 50 years, in different forms.

3. Remember that you love your partner; therefore, you want the best for her/him. Give her/him the benefit of the doubt when you feel angry, hurt, or disappointed. Talk to your partner; don't make assumptions.

4. Don't take your partner for granted. Tell your partner every day something you appreciate about her/him and how grateful you are to have them in your life.

5. Your partner should never feel like your enemy. If they do, something is wrong; remember that you fell in love with this person. If there's so much anger that you feel like you are enemies, get help somewhere as quickly as possible.

6. Gauge your relationship. Notice and don't ignore the warning signs if you're not talking, you're less affectionate, you're fighting all the time, and you're not happy. The sooner you acknowledge you're having problems, the sooner you can begin to solve them.

7. Always remember that you have the power to change behaviors in your relationship through different tools of self-discovery. You don't have to stay stuck in unhealthy ruts.


I just loved these seven rules. I know my love life is gone, but I hope that all of my friends can use this for their relationships. I love to learn as much as I can from this whole experience, and I take it all in. This is something that I will keep with me forever, and one day my heart will be ready to love again. But I know I have friends who are currently struggling in a relationship, I want them to read this now...and try to apply it to your relationships (you know who you are). All relationships are worth saving, so don't let yours go...hold on to it tight.